Speed Dating Advice

If you’re tired of being single then it can pay to be natural and comfortable when you meet a potential date at one of our events. Initiating conversation can be difficult – we all want to avoid cheesy chat up lines. But done right, Speed Dating can be a lot of fun!

When the Speed Dating starts try to talk to your “mini date” without it feeling like you’re trying to chat them up!

You have been given the opportunity where you can start a conversation without the need for the conventional “ice breakers” (Do you come here often?!!) Remember, you are both here for the same reason: to have fun meeting new people!

Now the “mini dates” have started and the wheels are in motion!

A Note for the Guys:

Take care when chatting to the Girl that you’re with that you don’t come on too strong as a woman could find this a little intimidating. Also, women are naturally more adept to having a meaningful conversation (sorry fellas, but it is true!) While chatting make sure you are having a two way conversation, don’t just talk about yourself, get to know the person that you are with and remember when the Three minutes are up, make a note of not just her name but a little bit about her to jog your memory later.

A Note for the Ladies:

It’s important to remember that men function on a different level to women. If they’re attracted to you or interested they’ll not only talk about themselves, they’ll enquire about your likes and dislikes and find any excuse to keep the conversation going. Men don’t like to have that awkward moment of silence so they will tend to ask the questions. Remember that this is your Three minutes too, so if there is anything you want to know then just ask!

Now… First Impressions:

One third of initial impressions come from how we say things. The tone, inflection and delivery are very important.

One of the key things during conversation is to match your listener’s mood, even if it’s just for a moment, because misreading this can kill the conversation from the outset.

When you start your “mini date” gauge whether they’re buoyant, quiet or shy and then try to adjust your tone accordingly.

Everybody is unique, adjust your conversation to how you feel with the person. You can tell if its best that the conversation is light and friendly or you can be a bit more cheeky and flirty.

Five Tips for successful Speed Dates with comespeeddating.com:

• 1. Avoid cheesy chat up lines and focus more on getting to know a bit about the person your with!
• 2. Ask questions and show a genuine interest in what the other person is saying.
• 3. Match your listener’s mood.
• 4. Having engaged your potential date in conversation don’t forget to make a brief note at about them on your score card at the end, just to jog your memory later.
• 5. And remember: you’re here to have fun!!!

However, if you feel that you are going to be at a loss for words have a look below.

Here are some questions we prepared earlier! They may not be right for you, use for inspiration only:

What is your favourite film?

Describe your perfect Sunday morning?

Which TV programme would you never miss?

If you could invite anyone, dead or alive, to a dinner who would it be?

Who was your hero as a child?

What was the first record you ever bought?

What is the last CD you bought?

What do you do for fun?

Where in the world would you most like to be this weekend and why?

Are you a morning person or a night person?

If you were on Survivor what would be the one thing you would take as your luxury item?

For take out would you order Chinese or fish and chips?

Would you rather climb a mountain or trek across a desert?

How do you like to spend Saturday afternoon?

What makes you laugh?

What makes you cry?

Do you remember your first kiss and if so how old were you?

What 3 words would your best friend use to describe you?

What is your favourite word and why?

If you could live anywhere in the world where would it be?

If you have friends coming for supper what would you cook?

If you could be someone else for a day, who would it be?

What did you do today that made you feel good?

Where do you see yourself in 3 years time?

Which character in Friends do you most identify with?

What is your favourite wine?

Are you an outdoor or an indoor person and what do you enjoy about that?

What would you prefer, a day at the races or a night at the theatre?

Who is your favourite actor/actress and why?

Were you a mod, a rocker, a punk, a funkster, a soul dude/diva or did you follow any other trend?

How far would you go on a first date? NO just joking, NEVER ask this question!